Saying It in Public Will Make You Do It?

Stop telling me what to do!

Stop telling me what to do!

There’s this thing you want to do. Several things, perhaps. You want to write a book. Lose weight. Eat healthier. Exercise more. Save up to travel and see the world. It could be anything, really. You really want it, there’s no question about it. But somehow, you don’t do it. Perhaps you make plans to do it (you’ll start tomorrow, or on Monday, or the next month, or…). Perhaps you even do some research, see where you could exercise, what you need for it, what interests you and what not (say, you’re already perfectly aware that you’re in no mood for aerobic, but pilates sounds like something you’re curious to try). Maybe you even start, do a few push-ups and walk a bit longer than usual, or even truly exercise for a day or a week.

And then you stop. You might try again at some later point, and you stop again. You just don’t stick to it.

Sounds familiar?

A common advice is to state in public what you intend to do. Say, on a blog. And to report to your readers how you’re doing with it. Are you sticking to your decision? Do you do it on regular basis? Did you make a lapse? Did you get past that point? And so on, and so forth. And all those nice people encourage you, and you feel like a fool if you don’t do what you told them you’d do. Even if there’s no one actually reading your blog, you said in a public place you’d do it, and it would be embarrassing, if only to yourself, not to do it. So you just do it and change your life for the better. And write a book about it and become rich and famous. Or something.

Well.

Several years ago, I started a blog with the purpose of writing more. I didn’t write more. And I abandoned that blog, too. Having it there didn’t encourage me to write more, nor did it embarrass me enough to do it (then again, embarrassment never motivated me anyway). It was just annoying.

When I think of that advice, I try and imagine myself listening to people telling me I should do this or that. Oh, dear. I growl at folks who do that. Or become really unpleasant. Or get away as soon as I can and avoid them in the future. Hey, it’s my life, my body, my whatever, leave me alone and mind your own business!

Not everyone is like me, and for some people, that particular advice really works. But it’s not for me. I might mention that I’m going to do this or that, or I might say how I managed to do something, but that would be sharing what worked for me, in hope that it might work for someone else, too; or I could brag about it. :D Nothing wrong with bragging, right? However, I have no wish to police my own life (or anyone’s life, for that matter), nor to report on the progress on regular basis.

So. There really are things I should do. I should definitely write more — say, the few novels I have in mind. I should also exercise, because it’s necessary if I’m going to sit at the computer most of the day (which is, in turn, necessary for all the writing and translating). It would do me good to lose a few pounds, too. More than just a few. And so on. But publicly saying I should do it won’t make me do it any faster, or at all. I’ll have to use some other way.

How about you? Does publicly stating your intentions helps you stick to them?

 

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12 thoughts on “Saying It in Public Will Make You Do It?

  1. mejkapovanje

    No… never worked for me.

  2. I used to do this, mostly when I was training for 5k races. I’d tell everyone my target time. It really did help. But then I got an injury that stopped me from meeting my goal and I felt cheated. Not everything is in our control, so saying things publicly can’t always overcome obstacles.

  3. I guess it does. Never want to look like a moron on the blog or elsewhere. LOL.

    • I don’t want to look like a moron either, so I try not to create a situation which would, knowing me, probably make me look like a fool.

  4. On a children’s writer forum, there’s a thread on the things writers wish to achieve this year/next year, and I always avoid writing my goals there. It’s great reading about other writers’ goals because there’s motivation and lots of cheering-on. But I could never bring myself to write my goals there. I could in my journal, though ~ Promises to self that can’t withstand the public holding me to them.

  5. This gotta be the most motivating post. I don’t like to be policed either, I trow a fuss over people trying to rule me and I like to do things my way, if I want to do them. I don’t think noting things down would motivate me, neither someone I know.
    I should write more and get my writing skills back, I got enough praise on them and I know I can, but I just don’t feel like it. Still, something that would hinder you would be regress. I lost some great things I wrote and it contributed to my somnolence.
    I want to do a lot of things, I can’t motivate myself for them for various reasons. Still, life it’s a nasty lady that feeds you lots of things you’d regret in the mornings. Don’t add things to the list by yourself.

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